Friends Need Help With Cremation Services
Planning a final service is always going to be hard, even if you choose cremation services in Bakersfield, CA which can be a lot easier. When you have a friend who has lost a loved one, and is planning a final service for them, they are going to need your support and help with the process, even if you don’t do much but let them vent to you. Here are some of the things you might want to try to do for that special person you are trying to support.
Include Them In Your Life
Some people don’t know how to act around people who are grieving. They don’t know what to say and they are uncomfortable so they drop that person out of their life for the time being so they don’t have to deal with that hard thing they are going through. But that’s the absolute worst thing you can do. Your friend needs your support and, beyond that, simply your presence. Include them in your life. Text them. Call them. Talk to them at the services and whenever you see them. Treat them as you used to and make sure they aren’t feeling isolated.
Let Them Cry When They Need To
Just as some people don’t know how to deal with grief, they also don’t know how to deal with someone who is crying. You don’t have to have any magic words because there’s really nothing you can do to make things better. But you can allow your friend to cry when they need to and simply be there with a tight hug. They will remember that about you later and appreciate how you were there for them.
Show Up To The Services
Showing up for the memorial service is simple and can mean a lot to your friend. Even if you didn’t know their loved one, being there for them is a huge deal. Make sure you talk to them when you are there, even if only briefly, to let them know you are there and you are thinking of them.
Talk About The Person Who Died
Some people will want your friend to move on and ignore their loved one after a little time has passed, but they would really appreciate hearing about the person they miss so much. Bring up their loved one, perhaps on their birthday or when you think of something they used to say or do. Hearing about them from you gives them permission to talk about them, too.
Give Gifts
Giving your friend meaningful items can also help them around their loved one’s cremation service. You might create a care package that they would appreciate or put together a few different gift cards to places you know they like. Something small and meaningful can do a lot to reminding your friend that you are thinking of them and are there to support them. We, at Basham Funeral Care, can help you in planning a cremation service for a loved one and all the aftercare.